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“ No way” said the lady incredulously, “She can’t be your daughter!”
“Yes, she is,” insisted my stepmother, looking a bit uncomfortable.
“Then why is she abdeh and you are not?” retorted the lady smugly.
Abdeh is an Arabic word that literally means a slave. It is the word that ignorantly was and perhaps still is sometimes used to mean black.
In this short blog, I would like to share a Tedx Talk with you. Please watch it. I believe it will be worth your 20 minutes and more.
I first came face to face with Transactional Analysis about 6 years ago at a networking event where Jacqueline van Gent from TA denhaag, gave a short talk about the topic. I remember sitting amongst the audience listening to her talk about ego states and life script and something just clicked into place. What I heard her say made so much sense in my world, and it was there and then that I decided I wanted to learn more about TA.
Find a suitable, quiet and well-lit place to work in. Preferably with enough space to allow movement and where you have a table or desk and chair so you are able to do some writing as well. It is ideal if you have such a space at home but if this is not possible then studying at your local library might be an option.
At the moment both of my daughters are sitting various exams. So again our lives are tinged with exam fever. As a parent I can’t help but feel their aspirations, their hopes, their doubts and anxieties, their joys and sometimes their disappointments.
Why is it that so many people suffer from anxiety? The majority of my clients come to me to resolve issues directly or indirectly related to fear, anxiety and some times panic attacks. Whether it is worrying about an upcoming presentation or exam, getting on a plane, performing on stage or at an interview, giving birth, dying and leaving a family behind, getting the next promotion…
Are you afraid to fly? I certainly was. I don’t quite remember at what age I developed this fear of flying but I did notice that it got progressively worse after having children.
Becoming a mother made me think more about this fear as I didn’t want any of my children to inherit my fear of flying or anything else that might hold them back from living life to the full.
I was one of the candidates who took Jo Parfitt’s “The Naked Writer” course in October 2012. The course was made of six two and half hour sessions where we learn how to write from a place of pain. Incidentally, or perhaps this was orchestrated by my unconscious mind, two weeks prior to the start of the course I saw my eldest daughter through her move to the University in London.
It is January, the time of year when the partying is over and reality hits. Most people will be reflecting on the past year and planning on the year ahead. It is a time when people make resolutions and set goals and outcomes. Some goals will be achieved easily, others will be more challenging and some will be almost impossible. NLP offers you 8 steps that increase the likelihood of achieving your goals.
I woke up with a jolt. It was 7am on the 16th of August. The A level results are out. I knew that my daughter was probably already up trying to access her results online. I got out of bed and went looking for her. As I rounded the corner into the living room and heard her sigh I wondered for one split second whether it was a sigh of joy and relief or disappointment. I got my answer almost immediately as she turned her head round from the computer screen and said to me, “ Two A* and an A!”
Twelve years ago, I was sitting on the steps leading to the conference room that was being used for our NLP, Time Line Therapy and Hypnosis practitioner course. We were having a morning break after having had a lecture on Time Line Therapy and discovering the root cause of present behavioural problems. I was drinking a much needed cup of coffee and pondering what I had just learnt.
Recently, I was at a Connecting Women meeting www.connectingwomen.nl
This is an organisation that holds a meeting once a month and gives the opportunity for women from all kinds of backgrounds to come together to share, network and inspire each other. As a member I was given the opportunity to showcase my NLP work. I had ten minutes in which I could provide a glimpse of what I do with NLP. I chose to do a brief mental exercise, which I hoped would simply arouse my audience’s curiosity. I am happy to say that my short presentation went well and conjured the enthusiasm I was hoping for.
The fast phobia cure is an NLP technique that is quick and effective for overcoming phobias and unpleasant feelings associated with trauma. Richard Bandler and John Grinder, the founders of NLP, developed it in 1976. At that time the fast phobia cure was called V-K Dissociation process, as the process removes the feeling (K) from the visual (V) stimulus that triggers the unconscious phobic response.
People come from different backgrounds and hence use different languages, have different values, display different attitudes and have different perceptions of the world around them. With that in mind it is quite possible that as humans communicate with each other they often run into disagreements, misunderstandings or miscommunications.
While reading a section in The NLP Cookbook by Fran Burgess, I was reminded of a personal experience that took place some years ago. I was working as a Basic Grade Pharmacist at St Thomas’s Hospital, London. I had been working there for a couple of years and an opportunity for a promotion came up. I went for it and I was competing with three other internal staff members whom I thought stood a much better chance than myself at getting the job. I stuck with it regardless and went through the interview, which despite my nerves, I thought went reasonably well. A couple of days later I was called to the head office and informed that I was successful at getting the position. Naturally, I was over the moon!
Recipes. Do they only relate to the food we eat? In my experience as a pharmacist, mother and now a Master practitioner of NLP, Hypnosis and Time Line Therapy, recipes play an important role in our lives. I would like to share with you the most important recipes of all: Recipes for Change.
My friends tell me that I am a reasonably good cook. That is surprising as I vividly recall the first ever recipe that I attempted to cook. It was for Jellof Rice, the Ghanaian answer to risotto. Needless to say, it went horribly wrong and the flat in Earl’s Court, where I lived at the time, stank for days!
