Are you ready to let your authentic self back in?

I grew up in an environment that conveyed the message to me that born as I was, I am not good enough. 

 As a result I worked hard to be, and do, what was expected of me in order to become good enough and accepted. Through that I was not being authentic. According to Gabor Maté, when we are faced with a choice between authenticity and attachment we will always choose attachment.

“We stray from being authentic to seeking acceptance. We let go of authenticity in order to stay connected.”

- Gabor Maté, Canadian physician & author

 In time this lack of authenticity became exhausting and I no longer recognised who I was. I crashed. 

 I got some help in the form of coaching, counselling and trauma therapy. It was transformational and motivated me to study and qualify in the very psychological concepts that supported my change. The crash indirectly brought an ending to this inauthentic life and from the ashes emerged the authentic me. What looked like a negative experience lead to a positive outcome as I found my courage to re-connect with and bring to the world the real me. 

 Do you find yourself doing one or more of the following:

•  Trying hard to fit with others’ expectations of you?

•  Focusing on others’ needs and neglecting your own?

•  Hiding your true emotions under a mask that permanently says, “I am fine”?

•  Putting in enormous efforts to be the perfect person in every role you occupy in life? 

•  Hurrying up through life to reach an end that always seems to elude you? 

 If you are, then like me once upon a time, you have lost touch with your authentic self. 

 Are you ready to open the gate and let your authentic self back in?

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